Updated: Jun 22, 2020
Hello and welcome to my blog!
I'm Marina Harris, a fun-loving, compassionate woman from the south who's mission it is to empower others and give people some psychologically-based tools that I've learned over the (many) years in training.
I can't tell you how important it is to me that you're here.
I won't bore you with lots of details about my life and work, but in short:
- I'm married and we have a beautiful dog
- I am trained as a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, meaning that I'm a researcher and future psychologist
- I love to forge meaningful relationships with others. I feel called to help empower others and work with people to live the life they want
- My specialty areas are mindfulness, eating disorders, sport and performance psychology, general anxiety, working with trauma survivors, and more
- I specialize in cognitive-behavioral therapies and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), which are therapies that focus on both the authentic therapy relationship and skills to help improve emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, and help people live more meaningful and full lives
I also want to give you some info on my core beliefs and values - that is, the things that govern my decisions and the work I do. I think these say more about a person than facts about their life.
- I believe that everyone is deserving of compassion
- I believe that everyone is deserving. (period).
- I believe that we could all use more acceptance in our lives - to be more accepting of ourselves, of others, and of situations - and through acceptance we can change (if we want to!)
- I strive everyday to be my radically, unequivocally, genuine self
And I hope that you find something here that helps you do those things too, if that's your goal.
So, why start a blog? I mean honestly, I can do most (cue, all) of these things through my work. But I always wanted to write. And I found that when I wrote or spoke, people listened. Probably not because I was saying anything groundbreaking, but because what I was saying was real. It was at its core pure and compassionate and raw. I don't always say the exact right thing (and none of us do), but I really believe that compassionate words and actions can heal the world.
I didn't always know how I would write. But I felt it. My favorite author Cheryl Strayed writes, "My book. The one I'd known was in me since way before I knew people like me could have books inside of them."
That's how I felt! I'm not sure there is a book inside of me, but there is definitely a lot of knowledge (guys, I've been in school for way too long), and ideas and acceptance and love and compassion. And I want to share my knowledge with all of you, because what you learn in therapy is basically gold - it gives people hope and helps people heal. And the value of healing is enormous.
But I am also a total perfectionist, and I had trouble starting. I am (more times than I like to admit) afraid of doing things because I'll fail. I toggle between fantasizing about all these amazing things I will do and then catastrophize about all the ways I'll screw up and more. But those things don't help us, they keep us stuck.
And of course Cheryl Strayed has a solution for stuckness too (that brilliant, wonderful person)- "Writing is hard for every last one of us .... Coal mining is harder. Do you think miners stand around all day talking about how hard it is to mine for coal? They do not. They simply dig."
So this is my dig. And finding the words that I always knew were inside of me. And I hope you'll join me, and get some information and shared experience that helps you too.
To do the things you want in life, you don't need to be perfect. You need only to begin.